Showing posts from February, 2007

Parent-Teacher Conferences

I always dreaded Parent-Teacher conferences. I was the teacher. I knew what I was in for when the angry parent charged through my door with the report card grasped in hand. “Why did you give my daughter a D?”

My reply?

“I didn’t give your daughter anything. She earned a D and I reported it.”

As parents, we want to protect our children. That’s natural. But sometimes we over react and want to blame someone else when, actually, our children are to blame. And when we finally realize our children are to blame, we want to fix it for them.

“What can my daughter do for extra credit to fix this D?”

My reply?
“She can begin by doing the work that was assigned to her. Why should I let her choose what to do? If I give her extra credit work, I am telling her that the original work is not that important.”

Finally, the parent is desperate.

“I don’t know what to do. She’s on that computer all night talking with her friends. And this job she has is just making her tired.”

My reply?

“Take the computer out of her…

The Sandwich Generation

The Baby Boomers are now known as The Sandwich Generation. We are responsible for taking care of our aging parents and our aging children, the Boomerang Kids. Emotional support for our aging parents and financial support for our aging children can leave the Boomer exasperated.

How do we cope?

Let's begin with our aging parents. The real issue we have with our parents has to do with how our parents see us. We are still their children in their eyes. When conversations become heated, remember, they are conversing as parent-to-child. That's why they may actually become disrespectful towards you. An example: My older sister was trying to explain my mother's finances to her and my mother finally said, "shut-up". My sister was mortified. "How can you say this to me?" My mother's reply, "I'm your mother. I can say anything I want."

Of course, we know that's not true. Both people need to respect each other. We need to change the parent-to-chil…

The Memory Keeper's Daughter

The Memory Keeper's Daughter This book by Kim Edwards is a must read. The setting begins in 1964 during a winter storm. Dr. David Henry must deliver his child. What he doesn't realize is that his wife is giving birth to twins. The first is a boy. Healthy. The second is a girl. Down Syndrome. Dr. Henry makes a choice when he sees his daughter that changes his life, his nurse's life, his son's life, and his wife's life. Great character development. Wonderful command of the language. It reads beautifully. This would be a great book for a book club. There are discussion questions in the back as well as an interview with the author. And now a quote from the book: "Later, when he considered this night-and he would think of it often, in the months and years to come: the turning point of his life, the moments around which everything else would always gather-what he remembered was the silence in the room and the snow falling steadily ouside." Page 17.